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Having Friends but Still Needing a Friend

“Please, friends I need who can be my best friend…I need a very good one.”

Reading this message above from someone in his Facebook timeline, I felt the pain of this person. I perceived his loneliness, the desperation for someone who could fill in the vacuum in his heart. I felt he needed a friend, a companion, a helpmeet and a partner.

You see, for just this few years I have spent on earth I have come to learn a lot of things. Let me show you but a few.

I see this person just like most of us. Every one of us might have come to this point in our lives where we desire a true friend. One who speaks the language of our hearts, one who understands our feelings and thoughts and one who is so close to us.

Many of us have come to this point whereby even amidst ‘friends’ we still desire a true friend.

We live in a time where we have the greatest opportunity to socialize with the advent of the internet and social media and even the opportunity to travel around the world. We have a lot of people around us but we still feel lonely. What an irony!

I remember people usually say “the social media has made people around us far, and faraway people so close to us.” This is most times true. Through social media, we have the opportunity to communicate and socialize with people and even make friends. People even from faraway countries. And many times, some of these people we meet on social media we don’t have the opportunity to meet them physically because of the distance but along the line we just feel connected with them in friendship and we just wish they were close to us and that leaves us in a feeling of despair and gets us more lonely again.

With the way things are going, it is hard to find true friends and this makes it even more difficult to come out of this lonely feeling. People can no longer be trusted. People are selfish, only seeking for their own ‘self-good’ and not ‘common-good.’ People no longer seek the interest of others but for themselves. According to the Nigerian parlance, “everyone just wants to chop and go.” All these and many more make finding a true friend more difficult.

It keeps you in that realm of despair and loneliness. Even when you have a great number of people around you, you still cannot talk or open up to them because you don’t find friendship in them.

But over the years I have come to realize that there is a friend like no other. A friend who is loving, caring and true. A friend who loves me so much that I don’t even know. A friend who gave up his life for me. A friend so close to me than I realize. A friend that I can trust. He is Jesus.

Ever since I met Jesus I don’t worry about sharing my thoughts anymore because he understands them. I don’t worry about my feelings again because he understands them. He has filled up the vacuum in my heart. He has become my best friend that this boy on Facebook is looking for in his post.

Let me tell you about Jesus,

When Jesus became so real to me then I realized with him I have everything and everyone I need in this life. As you go through the lyrics of this great hymn By Alan Jackson, I pray it will make meaning to you and bring Jesus whom I love, come alive in your heart. Amen

What a friend we have in Jesus
 All our sins and griefs to bear
 And what a privilege to carry
 Everything to God in prayer

Oh, what peace we often forfeit
 Oh, what needless pain we bear
 All because we do not carry
 Everything to God in prayer

Have we trials and temptations?
 Is there trouble anywhere?
 We should never be discouraged
 Take it to the Lord in prayer

Can we find a friend so faithful
 Who will all our sorrows share?
 Jesus knows our every weakness
 Take it to the Lord in prayer
Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Charles Crozat Converse / Joseph Scriven
What a Friend We Have in Jesus lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc, Universal Music Publishing Group

In the words of Randy Newman, Jesus is saying to you today, “You’ve got a friend in me.”

You've got a friend in me
 You've got a friend in me
 When the road looks rough ahead
 And you're miles and miles
 From your nice warm bed
 Just remember what your old pal said
 Boy, you've got a friend in me
 You've got a friend in me

 You've got a friend in me
 You've got a friend in me
 You've got troubles, well I've got 'em too
 There isn't anything I wouldn't do for you
 We stick together and we see it through
 You've got a friend in me
 You've got a friend in me

Some other folks might be
 A little bit smarter than I am
 Bigger and stronger too
 Maybe
 But none of them will ever love you the way I do
 It's me and you
 And as the years go by
 Boy, our friendship will never die
 You're gonna see
 It's our destiny
 You've got a friend in me
 You've got a friend in me
 You've got a friend in me

Let me make you realize that there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24), There is one who has shown you greater love by laying down his life for you (John 15:13). There is one that loves you at all times even in your sin (Proverbs 17:17). There is one with him you get better returns for your works. There is one who can help you up when you fall (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). There is one who will not mislead you but guide you into all the truth (I Corinthians 15:33, John 16:13). There is one who will never leave you (2 Kings 2:2, Matthew 28:20). There is one who understands your feelings and hurts (Hebrews 4:15). There is one so honest, authentic, mutual, confidential, courteous and reliable. He is Jesus and He loves you so much. Go to Him.

JESUS LOVES YOU!!!

With Love from,
Idoko, Meshach O.
Friend of the Bridegroom

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